The Royal wedding is upon us!!!

So, yeah, I am one of those annoying people who are super excited about the royal wedding. Its not like relevant royalty gets married everyday, so the excitement is needed!!! Plus if its going to cost the British economy £32 million pounds...Heck! we might as well!

I once wrote about how fairytales are evil fairytale schmoozytale, they are still evil!...BUT, you can't hate on a real life fairytale..*lovestruck smiley*. Kate or rather Catherine Middleton Duchess of Cambridge, as she would be known from today, is one lucky girl living the disney fairytale and Prince William is quite the catch! (Although, I think the fuller haired Harry is an even biger catch *wink*).  Disney should follow in the steps of Gossip Girl and make a movie with slight reference to them, it will at least make their stories more closer to real life than all their other junk.

I wish I was camped outside Buckingham palace, but alas! I do not live in fairytale land and I have big bad exams coming up soon. But you don't have to be camped outside the palace to celebrate the day.  Loads of people are having a tea parties in their houses, there have been street parties going on, heard from twitter that there's even an after party at some club in Lagos ^_-.Whatever way you choose, do celebrate the royal couple! If  you're super busy, like ME, you can just watch the wedding live from YouTube and have you own little tea party (where you of course have to drink some tea! Even if you don't dress up). The Broadcast goes live from 10am UK time  on the Royal Wedding YouTube Channel (There's a channel for everything these days).

SugarySea wishes Prince William and Kate Princess Catherine a beautiful day with sunshine! :s And a happy, long and fruitful married life!!

The gift of singleness

It almost sounds like an overcompensating joke. At least, I thought so the first time I came across the book with this title. Being single at the time( still am), this might have been a cheery book to read, but I thought “Nah, I don’t need any patronising soothsayers to tell me how lucky I am to be single" *insert exaggerated eyeball rolling*.


Remember those innocent, carefree days of when you were much younger. When you only had to worry about your times tables. I miss those days! I didn’t have to worry about anything!!... At least not anything serious. The same cycle continues, we're always going to long for the simpler days.


Fast forward 10 years down the road. You are married to a great man, have 2/3 great kids, and a nice job. Its exactly how you pictured it but guess what ?! you didn't imagine that you wouldn’t have time for yourself. It’s always going to be my kids this, my husband this, my job that! Even with just a boyfriend, you still have to think about the other person and plan with them in mind.

The gift of singleness is freedom. You don’t have all that stress, you can just do you. You can call the shots in your own life without anyone’s approval. You can travel to Antarctica if you like, shave off your hair..whatever! (err..almost whatever) Focus on you. your dreams. your goals. The person you want to become. Do the things you've always wanted to do. Enjoy your own company. Goof around in your room. Chat to your friends forever and not feel guilty.  Know and love you!!


I think not worrying about the future really helps. Knowing that at the right time God will bring the right guy. If I know that day will surely come, that means I have limited days of freedom left and I sure as hell would make use of them now before they run out.

For all the single people out there, I hope you begin to see the gift in your singleness and just enjoy me-time.
And here's a stirring p4cm video about waiting. Enjoy :)

The Gift

I saw this once on someones facebook note and after reading, I literally brought out my pen and paper and wrote it all down..for me. But now I'm gonna write it out again for you:

Every woman has an insatiable need for relationship, one that can never be filled. It is an ache in her soul designed to drive her to God. She aches for intimacy, to be known, loved and chosen. It also explains her deepest fear- abandonment/rejection.

You have to have someplace to turn... For comfort, understanding. For the healing of brokeness. For love. To offer life, you must have life. And you can only get this from God.

We live in a great love story, set in the midst of war. The great and terrible clash between the kingdom of God and the kingdom of darkness continues. They are fighting for the human heart.

Jesus is the hero of this love story and we are his beloved. So the greatest gift you can give yourself is to develop a real relationship with Jesus Christ, where you are finding in God the life and love your soul desperately needs.

Fairytale schmoozytale

Why do we just have to have the most unrealistic ideals about romance growing up and when you're all grown up, you come crashing down hard into the real world? Sex and the city already helped in figuring one of the roots of our freaking ideals and they are the lovely fairytales championed by disney ofcourse (for girls at least). The girl with the wicked stepmother and mean step sisters who is treated like a slave, or the girl locked away in a castle with no escape..whatever the sad story, rest assured prince charming would come to your rescue. Little girls parade up and down in their tiaras and cute litle princess costumes and you think "Aw how cute"...but really what's Cinderella without her prince? I grew up believing that finding a husband and getting married was the be all and end all of my life.

Like it wasn't enough that I'ld already been conditioned to stick it out in whatever sorry situation I found myself and wait for Prince Charming, I had to go and compound the issues by geeting hooked on Mills and Boom novels in sec. school, thanks to my lovely seat mate. And I know I'm not the only one who went through this phase. Now my ideals were higher and not just any prince charming would do. He had to be have a body carved like Ardonis and he had to be stupidly rich or have some royal blood or at least have a relative ready to bequeath him with a handsome inheritance. When we touched, there had to be electric sparks and there definitely had to be chemistry between us and he had to do all he could to get me no matter how hard-to-get I played.....

Now do you see the dilemna that this has created..Stupid Disney and M&B.Kmt! If only I had known the consequence of indulging in such sweet nothings. The only positive thing I am willing to hang on to is happily ever afters. I mean a girl still has to dream right..even though its definition has been constantly redefined over the years, to account for the odd hiccups and drama. The rest have to go and I soo have to cleanse my mind from years of brain washing. I mean there are the one or two people who look like they have fairytale lives..but really, they only LOOK like that.

And its not just girls. Guys have their issues with sex and pornography..which is a whole different set of issues I am unqualified to discuss. However company magazine were gracious enough to give me a few insights into some of the ideals guys have...No, we don't look sexy first thing in the morning. I know you think its bad, but its really worse than you think; puffy eyes, panda eyes, scattered hair/hairnet/half-tied, half removed head scarf, drool on the side of the mouth/ stinky breath...lol. I'm only helping to burst the crazy ideals you have..with any luck she won't be as bad a that and you'll be happy with whatever you get. I guess an alternative to super high ideals are shitty low ones..so whatever the case you'll either be prepared or very relieved..lol

And then again, maybe not. But what then is the way out??